Posts by Wayne Walder

Rev. Wayne Walder: The Invitation

by Reverend Wayne Walder It is flattering to be invited to a special event or a special place. We feel that someone wants us. Maybe it is a dinner invitation and we will have a nice meal with others of like mind. Maybe it is a party or get-together where we will connect with others.…

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The Invitation: Spiritual Questions and Practices

Could you invite someone to get to know you? Or can you ask someone if they are willing to let you know who they are? It is not hard; you can invite them for a coffee. “A real conversation always includes an invitation”.   Have you ever felt “invited” to nature? Has there been a…

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The Invitation: Inspirational Quotations

“A real conversation always contains an invitation. You are inviting another person to reveal herself or himself to you, to tell you who they are or what they want.” – David Whyte “As a vulnerability researcher, the greatest barrier I see is our low tolerance for vulnerability. We’re almost afraid to be happy. We feel…

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The Invitation: Internet and Movie Resources

INTERNET: Inviting Mara to Tea by Tara Brach, 55 min Mara is the god of selfishness, greed, anger, fear, doubt and shame. Each time he appeared to Buddha, Buddha would invite him to Tea until both became transformed. http://tinyurl.com/yakadso6 The Invitation – a poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer Oriah is first and foremost a story-teller,…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Boldness

by Reverend Wayne Walder I don’t think that boldness is a common Unitarian Universalist characteristic. We see ourselves as quiet and thoughtful, reflective and measured, reasonable and respectful. Boldness doesn’t fit with many of these attributes. We worry that boldness will be full of ego, wanting to be first and needing to be seen, so…

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Boldness: Inspirational Quotations

“I am Shawnee! I am a warrior! My forefathers were warriors. From them I took only my birth into this world. From my tribe I take nothing. I am the maker of my own destiny! And of that I might make the destiny of my red people, of our nation, as great as I conceive…

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Boldness: Internet and Movie Resources

INTERNET: A tale of mental illness – from the inside by Elyn Saks, 15 min, on Ted Talks Elyn Saks, a a mental health law scholar, asks bold questions about how society treats people with mental illness. http://www.ted.com/speakers/elyn_saks MOVIES: Ghandi (1982) with Ben Kingsley, John Gielgud, Candice Bergen Winner of 8 Oscars. Again and Again,…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Introspection

by Reverend Wayne Walder I believe our memory is not large enough to hold our insights. What I mean is that our memory does not have the capacity to hold the sometimes overwhelming aspects of our insights and the self awareness that comes from them. This presents a problem. For example, the beauty of something…

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Introspection: Inspirational Quotations

“Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don’t find themselves at all.” – Rollo May “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” – Carl Jung “A man is what he thinks all day long.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson “The more faithfully you listen to the voice within you,…

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Introspection: Internet and Movie Resources

INTERNET: Mission to India by George Lombardi, 16 min, on The Moth A must-listen! A most outrageous, funny and self-aware story about saving Mother Teresa. http://tinyurl.com/yc5bpnns MOVIES: Slumdog Millionaire   (2008) with Dev Patel, Freida Pinto, Saurabh Shukla Academy Award for Best Picture. A Mumbai teen reflects on his upbringing in the slums when he is…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Practice

by Reverend Wayne Walder Don’t do it that way! It would be better if you did it … this way! If you aren’t growing, you are dying! Don’t you know any better? I could have written several admonitions to do things better, faster or smarter. I bet you know a few. They all pretend to…

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Practice: Spiritual Questions

. Can you remember a discipline you tried but rejected? Can you clearly remember why you rejected it? Was it too difficult or a poor fit for your personality? Did you get bored or tired easily? How did you feel when you gave it up? . Has a type of practice or discipline worked for…

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Practice: Inspirational Quotations

“It takes discipline not to let social media steal your time.” – Alexis Ohanian “I think of discipline as the continual everyday process of helping a child learn self-discipline.” – Fred Rogers  

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Practice: Internet Resources

A simple way to break a bad habit by Judson Brewer, 10 min, on Ted Talks Can we break bad habits by being more curious about them? Brewer studies the relationship between mindfulness and addiction. Learn more about the mechanism of habit development and discover a simple but profound tactic that might help you beat…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Acceptance and Letting Go

by Reverend Wayne Walder There are times when words like “acceptance” or “letting go” can feel like the words of failure. We get to the end of our rope and we let go, or we accept the inevitable. By the time we feel this way, we are exhausted or over-whelmed. But I’d like you to…

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Acceptance and Letting Go: Spiritual Questions

. Sometimes we need to accept something but cannot allow ourselves to accept it. We might fear losing some part of ourselves, or giving up when we are not ready to give up. What stops you from accepting what you feel you should accept? . Can “letting go” include a physical sensation? When we let…

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Acceptance and Letting Go: Inspirational Quotations

“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.” – Rumi “Thank God I found the GOOD in goodbye.” – Beyoncé Knowles “Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.” – Erich…

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Acceptance and Letting Go: Movie and Internet Resources

MOVIE: A Beautiful Mind   (2001) with Russell Crowe, Ed Harris, Jennifer Connelly Winner of four Oscars. When Nash and others try to cure the disease of schizophrenia by using medications and shock treatments, his “genius” is also destroyed. Instead, he learns to let the delusions live and just let them be – not entertain them…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Compassion

by Reverend Wayne Walder Well, I lost it this morning. There was an unknown car parked across our driveway and I called the police. After ticketing it, the police asked if I wanted it towed and I said yes. I no longer get angry at these things. There were four cars at the back of…

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Compassion II: Spiritual Questions

. What is the most compassionate act you have seen in your life? Can you tell a friend or partner? Why did it strike you as compassionate? Could you ask your friend or partner the same question? (Blame these crazy questions on your minister.) . If you were to teach compassion, what would be the…

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