Ministerial Musings

Rev. Wayne Walder: The Invitation

by Reverend Wayne Walder It is flattering to be invited to a special event or a special place. We feel that someone wants us. Maybe it is a dinner invitation and we will have a nice meal with others of like mind. Maybe it is a party or get-together where we will connect with others.…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Boldness

by Reverend Wayne Walder I don’t think that boldness is a common Unitarian Universalist characteristic. We see ourselves as quiet and thoughtful, reflective and measured, reasonable and respectful. Boldness doesn’t fit with many of these attributes. We worry that boldness will be full of ego, wanting to be first and needing to be seen, so…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Introspection

by Reverend Wayne Walder I believe our memory is not large enough to hold our insights. What I mean is that our memory does not have the capacity to hold the sometimes overwhelming aspects of our insights and the self awareness that comes from them. This presents a problem. For example, the beauty of something…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Practice

by Reverend Wayne Walder Don’t do it that way! It would be better if you did it … this way! If you aren’t growing, you are dying! Don’t you know any better? I could have written several admonitions to do things better, faster or smarter. I bet you know a few. They all pretend to…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Acceptance and Letting Go

by Reverend Wayne Walder There are times when words like “acceptance” or “letting go” can feel like the words of failure. We get to the end of our rope and we let go, or we accept the inevitable. By the time we feel this way, we are exhausted or over-whelmed. But I’d like you to…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Compassion

by Reverend Wayne Walder Well, I lost it this morning. There was an unknown car parked across our driveway and I called the police. After ticketing it, the police asked if I wanted it towed and I said yes. I no longer get angry at these things. There were four cars at the back of…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Thoughts On Love

by Reverend Wayne Walder Every fall into love involves (to adapt Oscar Wilde) the triumph of hope over self-knowledge. As Alain de Botton wrote: “We fall in love hoping that we will not find in the other what we know is in ourselves – all the cowardice, weakness, laziness, dishonesty, compromise and brute stupidity. We throw…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Resilience

by Reverend Wayne Walder When I arrived at the cottage for the holidays and turned the water on, a difficult-to-reach valve on the water filter was leaking … a lot. It was losing about a quart an hour. That was enough to overflow any bucket. I tried to tighten the valve; I put goop on…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Peace

by Reverend Wayne Walder Peace does not simply call for the absence of struggle, but requires other things. For example, a hungry person who lashes out is not just denying peace. They are hungry, and peace requires that they not be hungry. When someone is threatened, they may talk tough because they are afraid, because…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Common Good

by Reverend Wayne Walder Do you know what the “Common Good” is? I have never heard it discussed at a party. Maybe you’ve heard it spoken about through a poem or some good political policy, but you have to look for that. Few stories appear on the nightly news about it and I have seldom…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Gratitude

by Reverend Wayne Walder Are you sometimes at odds with yourself? Do you want to say “Thank you”, or act with generosity but something inside stops you from being gracious? Are you unconscious about why you shy away from giving to others? I certainly have been. I have found it very difficult to adjust my…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Hope

by Reverend Wayne Walder People sometimes tell me it is hard for them to hope. Maybe it is hard because some of us treat hope like a magic wand. We imagine hope can make our wishes come true. I bet we have all “hoped” this way, but hope is not magical. Hope is not a…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Coming Out

by Reverend Wayne Walder I have learned the expression “Coming Out” was coined in the Southern United States when a young woman “Came Out” to her community as a debutante. Now, of course, “coming out” means coming out of the closet about your sexuality. It is an expression showing that our sexuality can be made…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Thoughts on Discipline

by Reverend Wayne Walder To a Unitarian Universalist, “discipline” might feel like a four letter word, for we were originally religious heretics ourselves. For more than 400 years we have questioned authority, defied superstition and pushed spiritual boundaries. Our perceived lack-of-discipline has caused us to be shunned by our Protestant colleagues. They have even persecuted…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: All My Relations

by Reverend Wayne Walder “All My Relations” is an expression of Native peoples. It means our family, both biological and chosen. It means our friends, near and far. It means those who have left this world, people we know, and people we would have liked to have known. It even means those who will come…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: What Should We Learn?

by Reverend Wayne Walder We all learn. We have been doing it since we were born. From learning how to breathe, to learning how to love, we have been learning all our lives. We know how to learn, but we are not always sure what to learn. Knowing what to learn allows us to know…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Commentary on Doing

by Reverend Wayne Walder We are all “doers”. We work, we play, we relate, and celebrate. We are often doing during most of our waking hours. Our culture promotes work and doing in many forms, especially buying. Sometimes we feel guilty or ill at ease, when we are not doing something. When we relax, for…

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Rev. Wayne Walder: Commentary on Challenges

by Reverend Wayne Walder Who hasn’t faced challenges in their life? Challenges are so common some people categorize them: health challenges, money challenges, relationship challenges. I’ll bet you can name many more. We have heard, “Challenges make you stronger”, but I am not sure that is always true. Challenges can make us stronger when we…

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