Right Relations

Our Covenant

As a spiritual community, we support each other in our search for truth and right action. We remind ourselves of basic beliefs concerning ways to treat one another. We check our own responses to be sure we are showing respect to the person who may have a different perspective. We tap into our reservoirs of kindness and empathy as we speak and listen. We seek to make our generosity of spirit explicit.

We write this to respect these simple but often difficult affirmations.

Towards Healthy Human Interaction

At Neighbourhood Unitarian Universalist Congregation, policies have been developed to promote respect and dignity, to ensure a safe congregation, to protect our members from harassment and to envision conflict as an opportunity for growth.

We present our Right Relations Policy with a sense of deep commitment to the well-being of our community. At the same time, we are mindful of our limitations. No matter how honourable our intentions, we will not be able to resolve every conflict. Spiritual and personal growth can be encouraged, but cannot be legislated.

Our hope, and one that informs this Right Relations Policy, is that each member of our congregation will take responsibility for his or her own spiritual growth, staying fully present to the process of conflict resolution and community building, so that healthy human interactions become part of every aspect of life at Neighbourhood.

In this document, we aim to encourage the maturation of our community through the ongoing spiritual growth of our membership, while safeguarding our collective well-being through the adherence to the policies in this manual.

To do this we might….

  1. Listen attentively, acknowledge others’ views and try to imagine holding their opinions.
  2. Refrain from judging other people’s motives and opinions.
  3. Seek accurate information, be willing to test our own assumptions, and examine our own motives.
  4. Communicate openly, directly, and honestly. Go directly to a person with whom we disagree and share differences respectfully. If needed, we will use a third party to mediate.
  5. Balance being open to new ideas with respecting our traditions.
  6. Stay engaged. Be patient with ourselves, others, and the process of change.
  7. Allow space for feelings and emotions – our own and those of others.
  8. Lighten up, let go of the trivial, and be willing to give and take.
  9. Remind ourselves that we are all working for the shared goal of supporting our spiritual community.